How to Pick a Christian Wife

A good wife is an ultimate reward for a man

Finding a good wife is the hardest thing in life! But then, if you make the right choice, your life will be a joy. There is nothing better than a good wife in life.

Career, money, football, friends - all of these things do no matter. The main thing in the life of a man is his family, thus, it is important to have a loving, kind, understanding, selfless, caring, affectionate, wife to look after your children

One must work hard to find a good wife. Unless a man decides to become a monk, because of which he, for God's sake, denies all the worldly attachments, including the possibility of starting a family.

You need to choose a wife carefully

Do not date random women. It is not necessary to marry the first woman that you see, life is too short to waste it on someone who doesn’t truly love you.

Single european women are gentle beings, they quickly fall in love and they get quite worried when there is no reciprocity in their feelings. Women have a more subjective view of reality than men.

They trust their feelings, thus, it is very easy for them to believe that a man fell in love with them and is planning on marrying them, which is not always the case.

How to take the first step?

It is better not to start with a decisive step. It is quite an obliging move.

It should not feel forced, it should seem accidental. Let’s say that you’ve learned that a girl is a volunteer. Become a volunteer yourself, visit their meetups, sit down next to a girl during a lunch or a coffee break, strike a conversation with her.

When the first step involves some invitation (to watch a movie or go to a restaurant), it involves some obligations, which is harmful.

Therefore, it is better to get acquainted by chance, to do it gradually. In order not to hurt a girl, she shouldn’t be thinking that you have serious intentions when, in fact, you don’t.

Don't focus on the looks.

Some men like blondes, others like brunettes. Some men like slender women, others like plump women. I had a friend who wanted to marry a girl that wore glasses. He thought that if she was wearing glasses, she would certainly be smart. Another friend of mine wanted to find a girl that has a great voice.

But do not focus on the appearance of a girl. We must pray to God and ask for a great partner. It is very important. First of all, you need to think about her heart, her souls, whether or not she loves children, is she ready to look after them, is she smart, is she ready to respect your opinion? These qualities are required in marriage.

No matter how beautiful a girl is, it’s not like you are purchasing a painting, you cannot just stare at her for the next thirty years.

In the end, she will age, her hair will turn gray, there will be changes in her appearance. But you should not marry a woman just to have something to boast about to your friends but in order to live your entire life with her.

Your heart and mind must approve of your choice.

Love is a hard thing to control, yet you should do your best to get your mind involved in the process of picking a wife. You cannot act only on the basis of your feelings.

When they say: “I am overwhelmed with feelings! I cannot cope with this love!” it is not true love, but just a sinful passion: deceptive, selfish, and exhausting. Love must be in agreement with the mind.

But there can be no purely rational choice: yeah, she is beautiful, rich, humble, she is a good Christian, she has her own house and her parents are wealthy, I am going to marry her! Your heart should also be in place when picking a wife, you should feel love towards her.

About Micaela

Micaela is a child of God, a pastor’s daughter and homeschool graduate who loves photography, the Maine coast, and anything historical. She is the founder of the ministry Hearts for Purity, and an author-to-be. You can find her blogging at Everyday Encouragements.


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